Kim Anami is a sex and relationship coach, writer, and speaker known for her distinctive blend of Eastern philosophy, holistic wellness, and bold, body-positive empowerment. Her coaching synthesizes over thre decades of study in Tantra, Taoism, Transpersonal Psychology, and quantum growth practices, aiming to help clients achieve deeper connection, intimacy, and creativity. Anami’s work has been featured in major media outlets including Playboy, Elle, The Sunday Times (UK), Oprah Magazine, Marie Claire, Allure, Glamour, Women’s Health, and national talk shows from E! Network and CNN to NPR and various international radio and television programs around the globe. She divides her time between Bali, Los Angeles, and various beaches worldwide, where she not only lives and surfs but also engages in her unique practice of lifting objects with her vagina.
You describe sexual energy as the creative force behind many of your projects and productivity. Can you walk us through a concrete example where you channeled your energy this way—what did that look like?
Absolutely. I often say that sexual energy is life force energy—it’s the same power that creates new life, so when we learn to consciously harness it, we can channel it into just about anything. One of my favorite examples is when I created my now-viral campaign, Things I Lift With My Vagina. I was already teaching vaginal weightlifting using a jade egg, but I wanted to communicate the power and depth of the practice more broadly in a way that was provocative and playful. So, I traveled the world lifting objects symbolic of different regions—coconuts in Bali, a Murano glass chandelier in Venice, even a piece of the Berlin Wall. While it grabbed attention, the deeper intention was to awaken people to the strength and healing potential that lies within the female body. That entire project came through a surge of sexual energy—creative energy—and it’s a perfect example of how we can turn our vitality into art, movement, and global impact.
Between your practices rooted in Tantra, Taoism, transpersonal psychology, quantum growth, and more, is there ever friction between these practices?
My work today is really a fusion of all those modalities—I’ve been doing this for over three decades, so my programs are like living, breathing organisms built from everything I’ve studied. I don’t work with clients one-on-one anymore; everything I offer is through curated online group programs. Within those, I create sequences and protocols that include meditations, Taoist energy work, self-massage, and mindset rewiring—layered together intentionally. I don’t see friction between the practices because at their core, they’re all about connection to self, healing, and integration. The friction, if any, is more in the cultural conditioning people bring into the work. The practices themselves are synergistic.
Many people struggle to even talk openly about sex, let alone explore it as a healing modality. What’s one simple, non-intimidating first step you recommend to someone just beginning their journey of sexual self-awareness?
Start by opening your mind to what’s possible. Most people are carrying around this idea that they’re broken or “just not one of those people” when it comes to sexual energy or pleasure. So I always recommend listening to my podcast, Orgasmic Enlightenment, and tuning into real stories from people who’ve gone through my programs. When you hear someone share how they went from trauma or numbness to multi-orgasmic, confident, and self-connected—it’s deeply inspiring. It’s not about jumping into advanced techniques right away. It’s about giving yourself permission to believe you can heal and thrive in this part of your life. That shift in belief is the first—and most powerful—step.
You talk about “polarity” in relationships as essential to sustaining passion. How do couples cultivate that magnetic dynamic while also navigating equality and modern partnership values?
I think there’s a misconception that polarity and equality are at odds—but they’re not. Polarity is simply about honoring the natural differences between masculine and feminine energy. When we lean into that, rather than trying to neutralize or blur it, we create attraction. That doesn’t mean traditional gender roles or inequality—it means celebrating who we are at our core. When people are truly at ease in their own energy—masculine or feminine—they actually relate to each other with more respect and clarity. In contrast, when we suppress those aspects, we end up resenting each other, or worse, losing desire altogether. So my work is about helping people reclaim those energies in a way that’s authentic and magnetic—while still operating from mutual respect and shared purpose.
You’ve empowered thousands through your online programs and retreats. Can you share a moment or story that deeply affirmed your purpose in doing this work?
There are so many, but one that really stayed with me was a woman who came into my Vaginal Kung Fu program after years of battling endometriosis and a history of sexual trauma. She was in deep pain—physically and emotionally—and had been told by doctors that there was no real solution. But she committed to the work, used the jade egg practices with gentleness and patience, and over time not only healed her symptoms but transformed her relationship with her body and her husband. She became multi-orgasmic, had a thriving libido, and—most powerfully—was told by her doctor that her endometriosis had completely disappeared. That’s when I knew again: this work doesn’t just change lives—it gives people their lives back.